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Hump Day Is Bump Day #36
15 Wednesday Oct 2014
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14 Tuesday Oct 2014
I generally like to provide the counterpoint to all of the bad bar boys stories out there. I also like to think the general consensus that they all are liars, cheats, drug-addicts, and lazy is Pattaya-centric, ‘cuz in my dealings with Bangkok bar boys that simply is not true. Generally, I believe that what you put out there, and how you treat others, is what you’ll receive in return. Which makes all of those lying, cheating, drug addicted, lazy Pattaya bar boys make sense. But even the best of us has occasionally run across a bar boy who is just not up to the task. I have too. And later, after the fact, when I’m wondering just how pathetic it is that I’m about to masturbate alone in Thailand just to have the orgasm I already paid for, invariably I know it’s my own damn fault. I let my gonads do the thinking. Again. Even though I knew better, I offed a bar boy who experience should have taught me was gonna never live up to my expectations.
That doesn’t mean that you can have a perfect track record by being cautious about who you pick to fulfill your fantasies. Sometimes, despite your best efforts, things just don’t go as planned. But even then, looking back, I know I coulda done better. I was too rushed, or too lazy, or too horny, or too something when I shouldn’t have been. For example, there was a bar boy at Hot Male I offed who did not exhibit any of the warning signs of a guaranteed dud. Okay, so his limited English was even more limited that normal. But he had the body of a Greek god. So I offed him, got back to my room, and discovered that along with that Greek god’s body he had the dick of a carnival freak. Yup, fang muk are difficult to spot in advance. And difficult to swallow back in your room.
Nonetheless, there are some common signs that the bar boy of your dreams will turn out to be a nightmare instead. And just like with how much you tip, it’s up to you. You can ignore what should have been evident, and then start bitching and moaning about the dud you paid for. Or you can wise-up and pay heed to these words of wisdom of when it is ion your best interest to not off a bar boy:
1. When What He’s Packing In His Underwear Ain’t His Package.
Sex sells. An iPhone stuffed into the front of your briefs does not. The general consensus is that bar boys keep their valuable stuffed in their tighty whities while on stage out of fear that whatever they hold dear to them may get ripped off if left in the dressing room. Bullshit. That’s a farang construct based on how farang act. There are only two reasons a bar boy stuffs his frontage with a foreign object. And neither is about being robbed, they are both about robbing you of your night’s enjoyment.
First, it’s his cellphone and he just can’t live without being available when his friends and family reach out to touch someone. That doesn’t bode well for you. That probably means he’ll be texting during your orgasm too. Second, he needs something down there to form a bulge and since Buddha saw no good reason to bless him otherwise, he relies on whatever he had in his pants pocket to do the work for him. That too doesn’t bode well for you even if you are not a size queen.
2. When He’s On The Prowl For Fresh Meat.
While you can’t blame a guy for trying, that doesn’t mean you have to be his bitch either. Always be wary of bar boys who approach you. You may think you are god’s gift to bar boys, but you ain’t. He’s not attracted to you, he’s attracted to your wallet. Any bar boy who approaches you has his eye on the prize and that ain’t your satisfaction. Treat him as you would a used car salesman who comes hustling across the lot saying he’s got a deal for you. ‘Cuz in either case you’re gonna end up with a lemon.
This has been one of my golden rules of offing a bar boy that has served me well over the years. Except for Noom. He approached me the first night we met and I thought perhaps I’d blown my chance many times in the past by refusing to off those who sought me out. At least until he corrected me. He says he got tired of me eyeballing his every move that night, that after watching me turn away bar boy after bar boy he finally decided I was just waiting for his appearance by my side. So I’ll add that caveat to this rule. Eye contact and a smile is an invitation. So now you shy guys have a fall back.
3. When He Thinks The English For Sawatdee Is Buy Me A Drink.
When the first words out of a bar boy’s mouth that you can understand is a request for you to spend money on him, your future has just been told. I like guys who hustle, I’m not a fan of those who try to hustle me. There should be a small window of time to get to know each other, or at least to allow you the opportunity of checking him out up close and personal, before you are obligated to help him and his bar make a profit off of your visit. And bar boy work ain’t that thirsty of a job.
4. When He’s Addicted To Straight Porn.
I only mention this one because it seems to be a common occurrence among fans of Pattaya. Bar boys with their eyes glued to their cellphones watching straight porn is only a phenomenon I’ve witnessed in Sin City. What floors me is how many punters seem to think this is normal. Even later back in their hotel room. If he needs to look at pussy to get hard, he’s in the wrong line of work. And you’ve got the wrong equipment. Besides, do you really want to catch a glimpse of vagina when your intentions were a night in heaven?
5. When The Mamasan Told You So.
Whether you still call them a mamasan, or a captain as is more likely the case in Bangkok, the bar employee who oversees your visit never has your best interests at heart. That doesn’t mean they are all out to fleece you. Some can even be helpful. But money, not your orgasm, is always job #1.
Like with a bar boy whose first words are about his thirst, any mamasan who asks for a drink as a greeting should not be trusted. Ditto when the first words out of her mouth are, “What boy you want?” Even if she doesn’t commit those unpardonable sins, be dubious about any bar boy she picks for you. That selection often depends on which bar boy tips her for your business. And the meat for sale is supposed to be on the stage, not sitting in your chair.
6. When His Yes Means No.
Unless you are extremely narrow in the range of what you enjoy doing in bed, you are usually better off going with the flow with any bar boy you encounter. And if it was important to you – whatever ‘it’ was – you shoulda made damn sure he would satisfy that need before you offed him. Having said that, there is also the Thai aversion to uttering “No” that needs to be considered. “I do everyting” is Thai for no. So even though you asked if he bottoms, he won’t when you make that attempt ‘cuz ‘everyting’ didn’t include anal.
Personally, I consider kissing an integral part of sex. And I get that some bar boys just ain’t into swapping spit with customers. No problemo. And no bidness from me either. So I always ask. And watch for the non-verbal clues that tell me his yes means no. If there is any question, I follow up with asking him if he is a good kisser. That almost always gets a shy laugh. But the guys who do will immediately prove it. Those who won’t stop at the laugh.
If topping is important to you, there’s not much you can do in the bar to ensure he bottoms other than inviting him to sit on your lap. Which I don’t advise. But a few follow-up questions can help you gauge his reaction for honesty. Be explicit. Asking, “I fuck you?” leaves little room for misunderstanding. And his face will tell you more than his words will. If you are a size queen, a sneak peak or at least a quick feel is not out of the question. That doesn’t mean you have a license to grope, or that you should start checking out the size of every guy in the bar. But no bar boy will refuse if it means sealing the deal. Unless he knows he’s lacking in the first place.
7. When He Comes With A Sticker Price.
I think from now on when I hear from a reader who experienced a night with a dud, who starts off his tale with “He told me he cost 2,000 baht” I’m just gonna mark those comments as spam and ignore them. Because every dud story I hear involves a bar boy who stated his fee up front. That’s not how it works. How much you tip is up to you. When you’ve agreed to a price before you leave the bar, there is no incentive for him to attempt to please you. And nine times out of ten, he won’t.
8. When He’s Just Not Into You.
When a bar boy’s attention is everywhere but on you, it’s never a good sign. No matter how much you are lusting after him, he’s just not into you. And can’t even summons up enough effort to act as though he is. Why would you think it’ll be any different once you get him alone, back in your hotel room? Even when it is just the two of you, he’ll still find the cheap painting on the wall more fascinating than he does you. Granted, you will seldom find a bar boy who with one look decides you rock his entire world. But at least he can fake it.
There was a bar boy at Dream Boy a few years ago that I asked to come sit with me. His face was okay, but he had these massive thighs that I immediately began imagining wrapped around my face. It was lust at first sight. At least for one of us. Dream Boys is a popular bar and can get quite crowded at times, meaning the bar just keeps packing punters in regardless of whether there is room left for them or not. So it was that night. Mr. Thighs To Dream For came off the stage in his underwear at my signal, and plopped his gorgeous flesh down next to mine. And then proceeded to stare at his friends on stage. The mamasan squeezed a fresh piece of meat into our row of seats and my leg brushed up against his. He immediately shifted so we were no longer touching. Huh. Who knew I was that toxic? But maybe he was just giving me room. So I moved my leg against his again, this time on purpose. He managed to find some existing space that didn’t exist to move away again.
Fortunately for me I can take a hint. I handed him 20 baht and gestured for him to head back to the stage. The incredulous look on his face was priceless. But, really? He expected me to off him when he couldn’t stand my leg touching his flesh? He was almost immediately replaced by a bar boy who’d been sitting with another customer, one who I was pissed at myself for letting get away, one with whom I’d traded several significant glances with over his potential customer’s shoulder. He scooted in next to me, gave my leg a squeeze, planted a quick kiss on my cheek, and the with a sad look on his face said, “I wit customer.”
Yup, he was. And that customer had his eyes on us. The boy suggested I wait for an hour and he’d be back. Unbeknownst to his customer, he’d already planned for a short, short-time off. I can only hope that was his customer’s plan too. Because the fool still offed that boy. He woulda done just as well with offing Mr. Thighs To Dream For. Which reminds me . . .
9. When He’s Already Booked.
Call it punter’s ethics, but you really shouldn’t steal a bar boy away from another customer no matter how badly you want to do him. Unless you are into sharing and that other customer is hot too. You can call it karma, I prefer to think of it as sloppy seconds, which is an orgasm I prefer to not think of at all. There’s always mañana. And if it is your last night in town, there’s always another bar boy of your dreams just a door or two away. It may be that the two of you really were meant to be together, but more likely that he’s available to the highest bidder. And it’s a long walk back to your hotel, with opportunities abounding every step of the way.
Closely related are those who just got back to the bar from a booking. Popular bar boys can get offed several times a night. Good for them. Not so good for you. I call that the law of diminished returns. It’s a sexual Ponzi scheme where as the last up to the plate you get left standing with just your bat in your hands. The guy who goes last never finishes in first place. Make a note, show up early the next night, and get him while he’s still fresh instead.
10. When His Square Peg Doesn’t Fit Into Your Round Hole.
Quit acting like you have a vagina. He will always be himself, and nothing you can do will change that. Especially for 2,000 baht. The perfect bar boy for you is never the sum of his faults. And there are lots of bar boys to choose from. If you are not into tattoos, don’t off a guy who sports ink. If you hate people that smoke, take a whiff before you off him. Don’t just be a cunt and tell him he can’t smoke later ‘cuz his nicotine addiction means more than your orgasm does and he’ll quickly dispense with the latter so he can enjoy the former. Ditto for yaba, poppers, or any other addiction he may have.
If you are a dedicated bottom and he is too it ain’t gonna work. If you like masculine men and he slips on a blouse to accompany you back to your hotel, your better off apologizing, slipping him his tip, and heading into another bar for the man you wanted. If you had your heart set on waking up with him next to you in the morning and he says he only does short-time, go back to the drawing board. If you want to ravish his body and he says looking only, find a more suitable partner. If you need to top, and he tells you he is a man, there are lots of bottoms in the sea. Go check out Classic Boys.
Fantasize all you want. Pretend he’s your boyfriend, or that he loves, you, or that he thinks you are hansum. But be real in your expectations. And know what those expectations are. In real life you may settle for less than ideal, when you are a paying customer there is no good reason to. Go ahead, be picky. Find every fault that you can. ‘Cuz there is a bar boy perfect for you. But you’ll never find him when you agreed to off a guy you won’t be happy with instead.
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14 Tuesday Oct 2014
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13 Monday Oct 2014
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Today is Columbus Day in the U.S. Or it was until the politically correct got their hands on the holiday and decided to call it Discoverer’s Day instead. Or it was until the even more politically correct chimed in and decided we should be celebrating Indigenous People’s Day, which is all fine and good but doesn’t make for a very festive parade. Even worse, that means that poem I learned in second grade – in fourteen hundred and ninety two, Columbus sailed the ocean blue – is no longer of any use and it’s the only thing I did manage to learn in second grade.
Usually to celebrate any holiday I post pix of appropriately naked hot male flesh, ‘cuz naked hot male flesh is appropriate for any holiday. So maybe it’s just as good that Christopher is no longer the focal point for his day ‘cuz there’s not a lot of naked Italians financially supported by Spanish royalty floating around the net. In the end, it turns out Columbus didn’t discover America, but was just a typical man who would not stop and ask for directions; his goal wasn’t finding a new world to plunder but rather a quicker route to the Far East to spice up Spain’s royal coffers.
So Chris no longer gets props for America’s discovery, but does still get the credit for deciding the indigenous people he found there should be called Indians (putting a spin on his wayward travels, he tried to convince everyone back home he’d found the Indies) and since Google does a lot better of a job at searching for naked Indians than it does naked Italians traveling on Spanish funding – even if it too heads for the wrong continent – I give you Bangkokbois’ salute to whatever in the hell the holiday is that we are supposed to be celebrating today:
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13 Monday Oct 2014
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12 Sunday Oct 2014
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11 Saturday Oct 2014
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Being Gay In Thailand is a Flicker group, which is an animal I didn’t know existed, that includes tons of photo submissions from readers that may bring back lots of memories to you, or give you yet another good reason to book another trip to the kingdom.
“Whiskey is Whiskey; You Can’t Make a Cocktail from That!” – Self-Identified Gay Thai Men in Bangkok is a long title for an equally long essay out of Rutgers University that is well worth your time as that along with some obvious inaccuracies it contains a good deal of info about locals and how being gay in Thailand is when you are Thai
Former Glee actor Cory Monteith – former ‘cuz he O.D.ed and died – has an alleged gay sex tape out on a Brazilian website that has many of his fans outraged. So many that the second link here to that site is (or was) down because of getting too much traffic.
What It’s like to Fly the $23,000 Singapore Airlines Suites Class is a great personal experience story for those of us who count about the world’s best airline experience, from Singapore to New York.
Heat and humidity are just part of the SE Asian experience, but Singapore seems to out do its neighbors; Why Singapore So Hot explains that phenomenon in this week’s NSFW Tumblr link.
An oldie but goodie in honor of PM Prayuth: Thailand army training caught on video.
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10 Friday Oct 2014
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I have tons of photos that I’ve saved off the internet on my hard drive. My excuse is that at some point each will be the perfect choice to accompany some post that I publish. And a lot of them do end up appearing on my blog. Others, not so much. It’s not that they are not all outstanding in their own right, or at least caught my eye and were worthy of a quick right click, but editorially some just never seem to fit with any article I’m writing, and some probably never will. Unless I use them as an excuse for an article. Like today.
Usually my Eye Candy posts feature some hottie I just discovered. And that usually means I also have his name and at least some details to accompany the photos I include. Today’s post instead is a random selection of photos of guys I’d love to do, guys who I haven’t a clue who they are. It’s my Eye Candy version of anonymous sex. Without the penis. ‘Cuz I can always find an excuse to post a photo of penis.
Finding photos of cute guys on the internet isn’t much of a challenge. Finding photos that I’ve saved of cute guys whose photo would never otherwise make it on to one of my blog posts was. I should have a file folder dedicated to those photos, but I’m not that organized. Even a Guys With Penis folder and a Guys Without Penis one would have helped, but then technically every guy has a penis and I’d feel guilty about filing someone’s photo in a folder for penis-less men just because they didn’t show theirs.
I’d like to say that I think every guy (okay, just the cute ones) whose picture makes it to the internet should show his penis, but there are pros and cons to doing so. Just like on Grindr. Some really cute guys suffer from Ugly Penis Syndrome. And as superficial as that may make me sound – ‘cuz I am – a cute guy with an ugly penis I pass on. Because I know I’m gonna spend more face to face time with his penis than I am with his face. Not that that means I’m gonna hook up with an ugly guy with a beautiful penis either, mind you. So sometimes you are better off being surprised. Even if it isn’t a pleasant one. My personal theory, however, is that all cute guys have cute butts. And in the end, that’s all that really matters.
Friends claim that they know what my taste in men is. Which is why I stopped allowing any of them to hook me up on a blind date decades ago. Invariably those guys were always more about what my friends though would be the perfect guy for me than what my penis considered a doable dude. I do have a preference in the type of guys I date, but it’s fairly broad. Younger. Not a twink. Not blonde. Nonetheless, guess how many older, or twinky, or blonde guys I’ve ended up sharing an uncomfortable dinner with thanks to friends with good intentions. Huh. Or maybe I just need to start treating my friends a bit nicer.
As random of a sampling as these photos of cute guys (sans penis) is, and as broad as my taste in men according to my claim may be, it was only after I’d picked out a dozen or so shots that I realized that in addition to being younger, not a twink, and not blonde, they all share a few similarities. The one that surprised me was bushy eyebrows. Maybe the next time someone wants to set me up on a date and asks what type of guys I like I need to just tell them that. But then again I don’t know that sitting through a meal with a Leonid Brezhnev look-a-like would be any better than the disastrous blind dates I’ve had in the past.
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