Are we there yet?
Yup, almost. So shut up and sit back down . . .
Now that I’ve got the first year of publishing this blog under my belt, I can sit back and cruise. Or so you’d think. But instead I fear It will always be a work in progress – a true reflection of my life. Content-wise, I think we’re there. Almost. As for the layout, as usual you should always expect changes. Or not. But the subject matter I focus on is just about right. You may disagree, but then ya know, it’s not your blog. (That sounds a lot better than “fuck off.’ Which would be my first response.)
Originally my blog was intended to be a series of travel tip posts, an opportunity to pass on some of my experiences and knowledge of the foreign lands I tend to frequent. Text needs graphics, no problemo: I’ve a warehouse full of pix. Have camera, will travel. Then I kept running across photos that I liked but didn’t see a use for in one of my travel tales, so a photography section got thrown into the mix.
I surf the ‘net too much, and yell at my computer screen whenever someone posts something that irks me, much as I do at the TV. They say it’s unhealthy to keep all that bottled up inside, so this blog presented me with an outlet to rant. Something I excel at. But thought I should limit it to Thailand related bitching; other blogs and forums for the gay Thailand aficionado provide ample opportunities for me to do so.
On one of those forums I’d posted several tales about my experiences/relationship with a friend in Bangkok who happens to be a gogo boy. That relationship continues and I decided to include tales about our adventures and relationship here too.
That’s where I was when I started this blog. Seemed to cover a broad enough range; I could blog away for years to come and never be stuck for want of a subject or idea. And there was a fine balance between the gay and not gay content. I’ve always maintained that being gay is but one part of who I am; being gay is not what defines me.
But Queerdom kept popping up here more than I thought it would. Maybe I’m gayer than I thought. Or maybe my internet habits just fall more to that side. Regardless of the reason, I decided to reboot, jump off the cliff, ignore the balance, and blog for a gay audience instead. Straight readers could come along for the ride if they so desired.
So don’t be bitching, “That’s not about Thailand,” or whining, “That’s not gay.” I’m striving for balance, here. Focus on the positive. Especially when reading one of my posts that is extremely negative. If you are greatly offended by something you read here, it was probably supposed to be humorous. Granted, my sense of humor is no doubt more whacked than yours . . . live with it.
Oh, and if you clicked on the ‘About’ because you were wondering, “who the fuck is this guy?”, I’m a native Californian who has lived up and down the west coast, and in Hawaii, for the fifty-some years of this version of my life. Self-employed after years of doing the corporate world thing, I spend about four months of each year travelling to foreign lands. I love dogs and tolerate cats (barely). I regularly abuse my liver and brain cells, and overindulge in the things I am passionate about, be that tiramisu, politics, sex, or travel. I swear more in writing than I do in person. And I’ve never met a split infinitive I didn’t like. What more could you possibly need to know?
[If you came to this page were looking for an email address so that you could rant and rave about something I’ve said that pissed you off, save it. I’m really not interested. Unless you can be original about it. On the other hand if you wanted to tell me how my blog has changed your life, that’s cool. But post it as a comment so that everyone else knows what an exceptional person I am too.
I write this blog for fun. Mine. Not yours. Filtering through tons of spam is not fun. With no email address posted, I avoid that little chore. Yes, life really is all about me. If you have a deep need to communicate with me, feel free to post a comment. If it is a personal message, or something you don’t want others to see, just make a note that you don’t want your comment posted – comments do not appear on this blog until they have been approved, so you’ll be safe. Unless you hit me on a bad day and I decide embarrassing you’d be more fun than replying to your message. Good luck with that.]
Just a quick note to say that you’re doing a great job with the blog.
Topics are never dull and your writing style is erudite, whatever that means, and best of all, occasionally bitchy.
Thanks for the info and for the smiles…
-Harold
[email protected]
BTW: I re-post some of your Thailand musings on my Facebook page…
Thank you Harold!
Thanks for taking the time to comment, too.
And for cluing me in to the Facebook click throughs to my blog – WordPress only reports those as coming from facebook.com, so I’ve been stumped, up to now.
Having lived/worked in Thailand for eight years, I am very impressed with the accurateness and detail of your topics. The blog on using the skytrain, Tawan Bar “boys”, and other topics are fun to read, yet helpful to those who do not live here. I am anxious to see your humorous perspective on Babylon (not to see what walks out of the dark steam room, posers standing in front of the darkrooms, West meets East), riding the bus (tourists participating in the “muscial chair” ritual, assigned bus seat next to the toilet given to the “ting tong” farangs,) or choosing the right motor bike taxi man to hump with while riding down the bumpy soi.
Thanks Bill.
And thanks for the story ideas, too!
I’m not sure why I haven’t done one on Babylon yet – that place is good for a few dozen posts alone!
Over the past 4 nights I have read your blog from start to finish (well actually from finish to start) on my iPad while laying in bed. It is, simply, a fantastic read. You have wonderful tales to tell and you tell them so beautifully and with entertainment. You have a writing talent that deserves not only credit but a proper outlet. If this is that outlet then I am happy to read on. I simply adore your relationship with Noom. The stories you tell and the way you tell it reminds me so much of an ex Thai boyfriend of mine. I smile at every tale. I can relate to your experiences with Noom on so many levels.
Good luck, best wishes and I hope to read more from you.
(blush)
Wow, thank you SA.
I’m glad you’ve enjoyed reading my blog. And your kind words are much appreciated.
I LOVE your blog! I have been to Thailand four times and can not wait to go again. Until then your blog is keeping me happy. I found it off a forum last week and have been logging in daily to catch up on all of your posts. You are so funny! I love your tales and how you provide information at the same time. There are so many good tips! Even the ones not about Thailand are fun. You are a talented writer. You pull me in to your stories and I start smiling right away. Thanks! Keep up the good work!
Thanks Tyler!
Glad you are enjoying my blog. I greatly appreciate your taking the time to comment.
And for coming back again and again, too.
Hope your next trip to Thailand is soon . . .
Absoultely terrific, telling it the way it is and isn’t, I enjoy every word, you are so very articulate
Thanks Kevin!
You’re obviously a gentleman and a scholar.
🙂
and thanks for taking the time to leave a comment.
I stumbled across your blog about a week ago and I have become addicted. I had not heard about the gay sex scene in Thailand before and the world you write about has me fascinated. I don’t know if Thailand has a tourist bureau but if they do they should hire you.
You use names of people, places and ????? that I am not familiar with in your stories about asia which makes some of your work difficult to comprehend. That is not a complaint because the more I read the more I pick up and then the light bulb goes on.
Most of your posts are funny and irreverent. Others like your pieces on the Cambodia temples are beautifully written and paint vivid pictures of the places you have been while still being humorous. It makes for a good read.
I have to admit I googled the gay sex scene in Thailand after reading a few of your posts to see if this was real. Amazing. I am now planning a trip there for later this year. Thanks for opening a whole new world to me and for the entertainment too.
Thanks Jay, and welcome to my world! Thanks for your kind comments. Most of my readers are familiar with Thailand and need no explanation for ‘people, places and ?????’ but I really do need to get off my ass and publish a glossary for the uninitiated. But, wow! A newbie to Thailand! You are gonna have an incredible time. Hope you end up loving the country, and its guys, as much as I do!
‘lo- ran into ur blog off a link to ur jeremy renner article. not sure about the asia stuff but the gay stuff is hellarious. keep up the good work my man!
Thanks Timeh, glad you are getting a laugh, but next time you have a slow day, or are at work, give the SE Asia stuff a try. You may find yourself booking a trip to Thailand!
I’ve enjoyed the heck out of your blog prepping for a visit to Thailand myself in March. Should you be there in the week after St. Patrick’s, I’d be happy to treat you to dinner as a thank you for the wisdom you’ve imparted.
That’s damn nice of you Ryan!
And I’d just been thinking I’d announce my next trip and offer to take any of my readers out for dinner as a thanks.
But I won’t be there in March.
Possibly for Songkran if I can get off my ass and book the trip.
Hope you have an incredible trip.
I’m sure you will!
Hi, I’ve been following your blog for several weeks now. The pictures are hot especially the mobile phone pics. It’s amazing how good self portrait pictures can be and to borrow from the song “everyone is beautiful in their own way”. I enjoy your stories about people as well. It’s a gay world and we all have a various types; your stories add that dimension and humor as well. We can’t be too serious. Cheers!
Thanks!
And thanks for having, and recognizing a sense of humor in others.
I dropped by your blog – your new choice in theme fits your content well btw – and will visit again even though you have misguidedly listed Rise of the Planet of the Apes as one of the worst movies of 2011.
🙂
Hi, I’ve just discovered your blog a couple of days ago and I’ve been enjoying it a lot. Especially your love story with Noom (I still have a lot to read though!). I really love your sense of humor, I’d say that’s the best approach to getting along well in Thailand. Cheers, Alex
Thanks Alex, welcome, and mahalos for taking the time to comment too.
Tackling Thailand with a sense of humor is probably the best advice anyone could give – good job!
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Please add me to email list. Thank you.
Thanks for your interest Nilo, but I can not add you, you have to do that yourself. Look for the ‘subscribe’ link – I think it floats on every page, or can be found on any post page at or near the bottom.
hi bangkokbois,
i had bookmarked your blog on my laptop some months ago–to read before
i went to thailand sometime in the future.
fast forward a few months, i’m in the philippines for 3 weeks to be with
my bf and to travel around his country for a few weeks. but it isn’t working out
and after 10 days i am ready to quit and take the next plane back to the states.
then i recall your blog, read some of it, and get the courage/impulse to go to
the airport and get the next plane to bangkok. i had a great week there! i got
a healthy dose of healing from a nice bar-boi (thanks to some “tutoring” from
your blog) and can’t wait to return for a longer term visit.
from the limited time i had there, i can say your blog does a great job
of conveying the energy and psyche that is thailand. it is not just what
you say, but how you say it that so skillfully carries the rhythm of life
as i felt it in bangkok.
cody
Thanks Cody.
Sorry to hear you trip to the Philippines didn’t work out, but then you discovered Bangkok so maybe that was a good thing.
Amazing what a Thai bar boy can do for your psyche, huh?
I’m glad my blog was of help during your visit, and thanks for your kind words.
Hope your next trip is soon and just as satisfying for you.
yes, my thai bar boy gave me some space from my disappointment in the philippines. that pain was not between my bf and me–it was his problem being gay in a hostile community–and an older man dropping in added fuel to the fire. you have a good nuts and bolts tutorial to the bar boi scene–here is my personal spin on how i did it:
evening one–make a decision to only look but don’t touch. check out a few of the scenes and take internal notes. sleep on it with the intent to awake with some
decisiveness of what to do the next night.
day/evening two–checked in with myself, i decided on dream boy for the next night and i would off a boi. i also decided to ask fate to decide on the lad, i would not be driven by lusty impulse. i believe we have a relationship with the world of maya we seemingly live in. in this case, the universe was responsive, as soon as i walked into the bar, i found myself escorted around a corner of the stage where a certain boi was standing and we connected for a moment and the match was made. he would not have been my first choice, maybe my third or fourth. but i usually stick with my agreement with the gods and offed him.
night two–i was horny, but also hurting and spent an hour talking with my boi. his english was modest but i have a talking translator that filled in well. i recommend one for thai beginners. if i didn’t find some human connection, then i didn’t want to play with him. but he was a good listener and the sex gave me some distance from the previous week. i did not give him a tip but sincerely thanked him and asked him to come the next night.
night three–he arrived right on time (even without a tip) and the sex got better
as we got to know each other….
cody
I don’t doubt that you have a good time In Bangkok Cody. You’ve got the right attitude. First I’ve heard of someone leaving their choice of boy to the gods, but I love the idea and it seems to have worked for you!
I had a relationship with a straight ex-bar boy for nearly 6 years before he died in a bar fight in his hometown about 2 years ago. It has been really hard for me. I could not bring myself to go back to Bangkok since then but I support his family financially. Your relationship with Noom so closely mirrors my relationship with my friend that I feel the need to contact you.
Sorry to hear about your friend Andrew.
I’ve known Bangkok with Noom and without but don’t know if he was gone that the town would have the same draw for me.
It’s nice that you honor his memory by taking care of his family, that undoubtedly would mean a lot to him.
Great Blog! Enjoy reading – Just gave it a little plug here: http://www.gayinchiangmai.com/News/2012/dancing-with-the-devil/
Mahalos Bon Tong!
Appreciate the plug as well as the excellent work you guys do over at Gay In Chiang Mai.
As a longtime traveler through Thailand and all of SE Asia I always look forward to my evening perusal of your blog. Great insight, great humor and guy photos to die for (where DO you get them). In my 14 or 15 years of travel in Thailand I have yet to visit a gay bar – yes, odd (maybe this next trip)- but am no stranger to massage venues and Thai companionship. Thias are always an enigma to me, always a delight whether it is my companion or the guy at the front desk of my hotel. Keep the blog going!
Thank you bahadur.
Gee, and I thought my three years of visits to Thailand before ever stepping foot in a gay gogo bar was unusual! Sounds like you haven’t been missing much though. I love Thai guys, but I fell in love with the country even before the nightlife opportunities became part of my routine.
Thanks for the compliments, and thanks for taking the time to comment!
Fantastic blog 🙂 I’ve always wanted to explore the go-go scene in Thailand a bit, to get a break from good old home.
Thanks for all the tips, and valuable insights. Kudos!
Thanks Stephen!
Glad you’ve been enjoying my blog.
You need to quit thinking about going to Thailand and do it.
You’re morals will never be the same again!
Love your blog.
Excellent writing, and the photos are out of this world.
Speaking of gay sex tourism….
I created a new online forum about gay sex tourism. I need someone to join it and help me test it out. It is completely free, and there are no ads. I just created it for fun. Hopefully it will grow into a large community.
Just go to http://gaytouri.com and click on Register. After you’re registered, email me back and tell me the user-name you selected and I will approve your account.
Thanks, and good luck with your forum!
I’m from manila & will be visiting bkk in october.Read your blog in preparation for my trip.I realized the subculture of prostitution is very similar here in manila.Hope to read about your experience in babylon.:)
Thanks Phil, October is a great time to visit (well, except for last year). Hope you have a great time – and thanks for taking the time to leave a comment.
Dear staff,
Dancing with the devil, a very good name, if you are a farang in Thailand !!
I wonder, I can’t find a box to “sing up” and I like it so much.
Ruud.
Thank you Ruud –
Glad you’ve been enjoying my blog.
There used to be a floating box for those who wanted to follow this blog, perhaps when I changed themes it disappeared. I see what I can do – keep you eyes open for it!
Thank you, your floating box came over last night and the devil was in it, I danced with him and he agreed that I wanted to become a member.
After the dance I subcribed myself.
Ruud.
Well then welcome to the club Ruud, and I hope the devil fills up your dance card.
Greatly enjoy your blog, especially your times spent with Noom. Have been reading them for the last few days. I believe you’ve approached it with the right mentality, dare I say only way to approach such a relationship. Sometimes you have to off the same boy a couple of times for his sweetness to come thru. Assuming one tips appropriately and treat them as a human being. I can’t place it, but most of them seem to have a sweet innocence and goodness that haven’t been corrupted by the job they are doing. Or its the kerching going off in their heads due to the repeat off, I don’t now.
Keep posting, I’ll keep reading.
Thanks SC, and thanks for taking the time to leave a comment.
I think it is that sweetness about them that is what so many of us respond to. Sexy as all hell, and available, sure. But over the long run it is their innate ‘good heart’ that works its magic. And I don’t think that is faked, its honesty is what makes it so alluring.
Thank you for this blog. I found it several days ago and have been really enjoying it. I do business in Thailand and am in Bangkok often and also enjoy the Twilight Soi. I have learned a lot over the years and have always had a pretty good time. I have only been seriously burned once but I lived through the experience and now know what to avoid.
I fully agree with you that a lot of having a good time is being respectful and just plain not being a dick. I do not understand men (usually my fellow Americans) who feel the need to get the most for the least amount of money. In that I pay 4 bucks for a latte, 25 for a haircut, etc….I do not get why guys object to paying 1,000 to 1,500 bht for some pretty decent sex with a cute boy. Particulary considering that 30 bucks is nothing to me but a great deal to a bar boy. Also, in that I am 60 and could lose 30lbs its not like I have guys back home breaking down my door not to mention that to buy sex there would cost at least a 100 and dealing with a guy with a bad attitude.
Please keep up the good work.
Thanks Luke.
There wouldn’t be much left to blog about but really the best advice for navigating Thailand’s bar world is just that: Don’t be a dick.
Glad you’ve been enjoying my blog. Thanks for taking the time to leave a comment.
it’s a great blog, with more likely about g-rated travel guide ermm..with stories…
Thanks as-boy – and a perfect description I think!
🙂 not really…even sometimes i can see how eager you try to hold yourself from writing those descriptions LOL…you know it should be saved for somewhere since we all are certainly looking forward for reading the details and description as well. you know what i mean. hahaha…
so whats the true orientation of this blog actually? so far I can think that (aside from being racists) this white blogger guy seem to love asian boy. ‘asian and white’ are just exoxtic in my opinion (and cute), even there’s always been some nasty stereotype among people’s mind about this kind of white-asian things.
Those posts are here too as-boy, ya just gotta search for them.
I do like Asians. And Latinos, Italians, Black Irish . . . but being as this blog centers on Thailand, the Asian side of things takes precedence.
as the reader’s getting more and more, and the clubs and go go bars are cool and the boy’s are fine, you have ever thought of expanding the blog’s perspective and widened its size up? The tag says – gay, gaytouri, travel, photography, temples, monks, ubiquo plastic stool fanatics,gay love story, gay soft porn story, ermm oh and hot asian models. that’s about 8, quite lucky number actually. but i heard my friends are talking discussing about saunas and clubs in Bangkok….this is my first time in Bangkok, I dont know what to do here and so confused..so many many hot boys. come and go. bare skin here and there. so stylish. I want to… but i just feel like all b myself alone in this city of angels…please help more..im lost, sir…
korp koon krubbbb..
I don’t do the massage places much, and while I have gone to a few saunas, they are the same as in the U.S. – and pretty much everywhere else in the world!
I do thank you for reading this great blog! But the theme background is dark…. It’s hard to read…
May you please change to the more brighter one, your readers will appreciate much!
Great life, brother!
Thanks!
When you sign up for a blog at WordPress you select a theme, which is preset with layout and colors. I chose this one because it matched my content. I can not change the font color. However, the paragraph text is actually grey – which negates the inherent eye-stress of white text on a black background. If that illuminosity is still a problem for you, turn off the lights in your room. Or just focus on the pix of naked guys and you’ll forget about any other annoyances.
🙂
Thank you for your prompt reply! I don’t know why I could not post a word onto this reply box until tonight.
Your words are precious, nat the pics. Maybe I should print out your stories to read (especially before going to bed). I will try to have a tablet to read your blog easier.
Everyone has stories to tell, and I luve your ones so much! Thai is a wonderful land. I have a cute chubby friend in BKK, and the short time with him when I firstly visited there made me find my lost belief about relationship between human beings, between man and man. Maybe that feelings come from his greatly gentle behaviors – lovely feature about Thai’s characteristics.
Good night from my country to the writer!
Thanks BX, glad to hear you’ve been enjoying my blog, and thanks for taking the time to leave a comment.
I started reading “I fell in love with a bar boi” from the beginning and I’ve just reached the entry where you explain that from your posts random guys around the world have traveled to Bangkok and tracked down Noom to meet him. The idea had crossed my mind as a possibility but hearing that I’m late to the punch makes it seem less like The Goonies adventure I would be into (you know putting together the clues, finding the secret map, discovering the lost treasure) but it’s still amazing to hear about. Your story is so intimate and sincere. Its like normally when friends start to discuss their relationships, my eyes glaze over and I just sort of nod my head every once in a while until their mouth noise stops. Yours however, is a story with sights and sounds and smells that draw me in completely. Perhaps thinking I can understand someone else’s relationship as intimately as I think I do is presumptuous but you do an amazing job considering that telling someone about a relationship is like telling someone about a dream. You can describe events but all the meaning behind it is lost without some sort of vulcan mind meld. No doubt I’m avoiding this cold Chicago winter by living vicariously through your tails. Thanks keep it up. -Patrick
P.S.
I’ve scoured the about page can’t find your info?
Thanks Patrick, seriously. My tales of Noom take much longer to write because I’ve never wanted them to be just about our relationship but more the wonder that is having a Thai as a close friend. I also wanted to explore the farang/bar boy relationship without falling into the walking atm depths that are so prevalent on the message boards, and include a taste of Thailand to boot. So maybe I’ve been successful. Noom is a wonderful guy, and I have also tried to not be disrespectful of who he is while still relying on humor to carry many of the stories. So it’s not surprising that so many readers have gone on their own Goonie adventure to track him down. That soooo strokes his ego!
As for the info, that was it – me in a nutshell, with probably none of the details you were looking for. There’s still a link on this blog to an off-site web page that fills my story in, but you’ll have to find it on your own.
🙂
I stumbled upon your blog just the other day and I have now read every post!
I used to travel frequently to Thailand back in the early 80’s; yes, I remember the Barbiery Coast Bar!
Your stories remind me so much of myself because I too fell in love with a bar boi. It was fun.
I don’t visit any of the forums because I just get sick and tired of the attitude; I mean buy a drink, leave a tip, and don’t be so tight. I was in my 20’s then and I was loving the sex and companionship.
Lots of times I would, thanks to my bar boi, find myself treating a bunch of sex show workers to pizza and beer at Pizza Hut after they had performed and those were conversations I will never forget!
Besides great memories I came away with a respect for the concepts of “sanuk” and “mei pen rhai.”
Thanks for sharing!
Thanks TS.
Though there were probably better ways to spend your holidays, I appreciate your interest in my blog.
🙂
I enjoy the sex part of Thailand’s bar world, but agree with you that getting to know the guys (and gals) who make their living that way, and being accepted into their world is even more of a draw. I understand those for whom it is a cash for sex transaction and then move on, but I think they are missing out on a lot.
Thanks for your comments!
hello Bangkokbois. A few hours ago, I replied to one of your posts, but it seems that it was deleted. I am not sure what caused the deletion or if it was moved to a different post, but I was really anticipating a reply from someone who literally ‘fell in love with a bar boy’ as your posts suggests. Thanks.
Comments need to be approved by me before they appear on my blog – otherwise there’d be tons of spam.
That can take as long as 24 hours, depending when I log on.
Patience is a virtue.
Even if it is not one of mine!
🙂
I recently found this blog and I have to say wow… I was glued to my computer and read (and looked at!) pretty much everything. I am a young guy (early 20s) who shares your exquisite taste in guys. One day I hope to be able to travel like you and experience what you have! Your stories and pics are very hot and I can never visit your blog with ‘taking matters into my own hands’! Anyway I just wanted to show my support.
Nath
Thanks Nath, and thanks for taking the time to comment.
And congrats on having excellent taste in men too.
Hope you stick around and I hear from you again!
I’ve just discovered your blog a few days back when I was searching for Thailand travel tips, and have been reading it non-stop now 🙂
It’s weird looking for tips when I frequently go to BKK at least once a year, but I like your perspective, specially on the gogo places. Like you, I have a penchant for places like these 😀
I had fun reading your love stories – the right Thai men are the best in the world. I maybe a part-time butterfly, part-time lover, but I’ve always enjoyed my time with them.
Maybe we’ll cross paths in the future & swap stories over a beer in Tawan. I’m planning to go to BKK this august, so i’ll see where the adventure goes
Thanks JP, and thanks for taking the time to leave a comment.
Good point too – you do not have to be either a butterfly or a devoted lover. Thailand allows room for a little of both, and that’s then the best of both worlds!
Enjoy your trip – if we’re ever in town at the same time I’d njoy sharing a beer with you. Especially while watching the Tawan boys!
Hello again! I just finished my 5 day “excursion” in Bangkok. I visited Tawan only once, and I just can’t at the show with the whipping segment. Surprisingly, most of the guys I’ve seen from last year are still there, and it’s embarassing when the guys you offed in the past suddenly come rushing back to you & say hi. Imagine the stares of the other patrons – which I didn’t mind anyway.
I ended up meeting the 2 guys I offed before (of course in separate times). They were the same as the last time, very accomodating. I’m not sure if they know I offed them before, as fortunately they were not in the bar at the same time before. I’m wondering if I’m complicating my future interactions with the 2 of them when I meet each one clandestinely. I didn’t wanna ask them how they would feel about this though.
So there you go: this trip was semi-butterfly, semi-lover for those two. I would gladly meet them again next time, unless a new superstar arrives.
Old friends and new friends make for a good mix!
But don’t worry about one of your oldies finding out about the other. The way bar boys gossip about customers I’m sure you have been well covered by both by now!
Glad to hear you had a great trip JP. Thanks for reporting back!
Fantastic blog! I’m in Phuket at the moment, at the end of a weeks detox and fitnesss/bootcamp, and am about to head back to BKK for a few days, and then meet up with my family in Pattaya.
I’ve been to BKK a few times now, and (by the standards of this blog) have royally fucked up the gogo bar scene! Your tips are great and I’m now armed with the right information when doing my visits to Soi2 and Soi4.
I’m Australian and there are some cultural differences that are difficult to adjust to, prices are always upfront, we don’t barter, and the minimum wage is generous, consequently we have an extremely low tipping culture.
I’m going off on a tangent…
My question is, if you are getting a gogo boy for a ‘long time’ (overnight), what is the best way to accommodate your evening? You generally can’t take them back to your hotel right? Are there any other options other than the short term hotels (such as the BBB place)? Can you book hotels where it is okay to bring them back to? I’m pretty stuck on this one.
I don’t expect a reply too quickly as I’m sure you have a life, but I actually am waiting with baited breath!
Keep up the great work. You note that this blog is for your enjoyment, I can assure you it is also certainly to the readers!
Cheers
Kevin
Thanks Kevin.
Flattery will get you everywhere.
Or at least a timely reply.
Um, I’m not sure where you got the idea hotels in Bangkok won’t let you bring back a bar boy. Very few have a no-guest policy. Some may charge a joiner fee to do so, but most just assume that’s why you are in Bangkok. Booking a double instead of a single room usually removes any problem (and 99% charge the same rate for either).
There are a pair of posts here from not long ago about the hotels in Patpong (if that is where you want to stay) that does a decent job of listing the pluses and minuses of each and notes if a joiner fee is charged. Just use the search box at the bottom of the page.
If you are considering some other place, just post a comment and I or someone else will let you know if you should expect any kind of problem there.
Sorry to hear about that Pattaya thing.
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But have a grand time finishing off your stay in Thailand anyway!
From my personal experience I have found the MODE SATORN to be a very gay friendly hotel. And if you have booked a double, you and your boy du jour can have a great complimentary breakfast. Your companion will be treated as just another guest.
Good point Nav, booking a double gets you an extra tickt for the free breakfast your hotel may put on. And it usually doesn’t cost you an extra penny. Though your date for that breakfast may.
hello Bangkokbois,
I don’t know your real name so I great you like this.
I am addicted to your blog – it is fantastic.
I am a fellow American like you – but I have been living outside of the US since 1999 in Italy.
This week will be my 52nd birthday and at this age I think more and more about my eventual retirement and where I would like to spend those years. Originally, I had thought it would be in Italy – but Italy is VERY expensive and being an American I will have to pay taxes both to the US and Italy in my pension years so, the allure of retiring in Italy is fading fast as both Italy and the EU sink into debt hell and the resulting increase in taxes.
So, Thailand looks like a great place. Your blog has pushed me more and more into giving it serious thought. I have been to The Kingdom for the first time back in March and I truly enjoyed it – seeing BKK and Phuket. I had many massages as with my timid personality that was all I could manage. I tried the boi-bar thing but then I became like a deer standing in the headlights and I froze and nothing happened.
So, I am going to give it another try. I just booked my tickets to The Kingdom arriving on Dec 21 and leaving on 13 Jan.
Thanks,
Martin
Thanks Martin.
The end of the year is a great time to visit Thailand. The weather is at its best and the bars at their busiest. I’m sure you’ll have a grand time – and may even work up enough (something) to off a guy. Though you gotta admit just watching the shows can make for an enjoyable night out!
Get several more trips in under your belt before deciding on the Kingdom as a possible home – each area of the country offers a completely different life, so you may want to check out all the possibilities before making a decision. And despite my general opinion of Pattaya sexpats, there is a large expat population in Thailand, many of whom are nice guys – they can be of great help in deciding if Thailand is the right fit for you.
Good luck!
Hello,
I discovered your blog while researching for my first trip to Bangkok. Went this past September, and I have to say, reading some of your posts truly came in handy and helped me over the jitters of being a newbie. Sure I forgot most of what I read at some very important moments that I should have remembered them, the few things I did remember did help.
Now I’m here this afternoon, just going back day by day reading your blog and taking it all in. So her’es a big Thank You.
Thanks for your comment David.
Hope your visit was fun and um, satisfying.
Returning again soon?
Hi just stumbled upon your blog while researching Bangkok. Iam actually a straight mum. But once i stared reading your blog i got hooked. Its really fantastic. Here’s an idea, why dont you make it into a book. I sure would buy it. And i can tell you yours would be so much better than some rubbish that is on the shelves. Believe it or not but i saving this site to show my 21year old daughter , who by the way will be joining my friends and i on a party week in Phuket, Krabi and of course Bangkok in November. Iam she would love what you write….so keep posting…you have a fan here
Well bless you Disni, and thanks for taking the time to post your kind comments. Sounds like you have the right attitude toward life for enjoying everything Thailand will be throwing at you. If you have any specific questions, feel free to ask. I hope you and your gang have a wonderful time on your holiday!
Thank you.
This wonderful blog certainly made my trip, especially this one with the family, to BKK worry-free.
My younger sister who pays annual shopping pilgrimage to BKK was impressed by the way I navigated the city and interacted with the locals.
All because of the information, guides and everything your blog has taught!
My next mission ~ to rendezvous with bangkokbois in BKK in one of the future visits.
Thanks Andi, though I suspect a lot of your success was thanks to your having the right attitude.
thanks… would not have adopted the right attitude without the inputs from your blog…
Man, this blog is some good shit. Im 32 from Hawaii, and have decided to treat myself to 10 days in Bangkok by myself. No bf, no friends, just moi. I’ve been reading your blog frantically trying to cram all this brilliant information in. A massive thanks for all you’re shared knowledge 🙂
I have a question though. How ‘safe’ is it to get down and dirty with a bar boy? I plan on using condoms of course, but what are the chances of coming back to the aloha state with a few herpes and genital warts? I wanna fuck my brains out, but I’m a little scared :S
Thanks Aaron.
You will have a grand time. I’m sure.
I’ve whored my way across the kingdom more times than I can remember, and have never picked up any souvenirs. Use the same cautions you would back home and you should be fine. I don’t think bar boys are a greater risk than guys hooked up with digitally, possibly even safer.
Don’t be a tightwad, treat the guys fairly and with respect, and plan on just having fun and your biggest danger will be from becoming addicted to Thailand.
If you have any specific questions, feel free to ask and I’ll do my best to steer your true (provided I can get over my jealousy of your inaugural blast in the Land Of Smiles).
Mahalo for your prompt reply!
As I’m sure you know, as a local Hawaii boy, I am certain of 2 things about myself. I am always running late and I’m incredibly indecisive. I usually just go with the flow, so having to make decisions about where to stay while I’m in Bangkok is causing me to have many sleepless nights lol. Pathetic yeah?
I have read your posts/reviews about a few hotels, but I’m afraid I’m no closer to knowing where to stay. Any chance you might be able to suggest a couple places to stay? I’ll dedicate the first nut I bust in Thailand in your honor 🙂
I’m not a tight ass, so I’m happy to spend money on nice place within reason. Looking for a nice place that has a good location. I don’t mind having to catch taxis if need be. Someone had suggested Bandara Suites Silom, any thoughts?
Thanks again for all your shared knowledge, and for putting my mind at ease about bringing home any ‘souvenirs’. Mahalo Nui!
“I am always running late and I’m incredibly indecisive”
LOL
I think I know you!
🙂
Since it is in the area and price range of Bandara Suites, that’s easy: Centre Point Silom. It’s situated on the top of Robinson Bangrak Department Store, along with a supermarket and several fast food joints below too. Only a block away from Saphan Taksin skytrain (BTS) station and Sathon ferry pier, transpo options abound. And a taxi to Patpong is about 5 minutes and 70 – 80 baht. Right now Agoda has rooms for around $70 – it’s what you’d pay $200 for back in the States. And comes with breakfast (book a double room, the price is the same, and then you’ll have an extra breakfast coupon if you keep a guy overnight).
The only bad thing about the hotel is they place a 1,000 baht peer night hold on your credit card at check-in even if your room is prepaid. No biggie, but just so you know. I wrote a review of the place, you can do a search on Centre Point Silom in the search box at the bottom of this page if you want more info.
Has the daily email notifying me of a new post broken again? My emails stopped a few days ago and I am in severe withdrawal?
What do I need to do to restart the daily emails??
Sorry SA, don’t know what to tell you. That’s back of house operations and beyond my pay grade. I checked and you still show as being subscribed. WordPress just upgraded, so maybe that’s a bug. I’ll let ES know – so thanks for giving me a heads up.
You may want to check that it’s not going to your spam folder, just in case.
Probably easiest to re-subscribe by clicking on the ‘Follow’ button floating at the bottom of any page. Just don’t forget to confirm the sign-up email you get.
Ok, cool thanks.
I’ll re subscribe anyway. It’s all too good to miss.
When are you next back in Thailand?
Hope that works for you SA.
My next trip is in June, primarily for business.
I’m just glad Noom’s bidness is me.
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Hey I found out the problem! It was hitting my spam folder but it wasn’t visible in the spam folder on my iPad. They were all still in the spam folder sitting back in the spam folder when I looked at the web version of hotmail.
Life has returned to normal.
Nooms bidness is good bidness.
Oh sure. Make me jump through hoops ‘cuz you’re too lazy to check your spam folder.
🙂
Glad all is well again. On the plus side, when I was checking to see if I could figure out what the problem was I found a box to checkmark that should now include a thumbnail of the main photo on each post you are alerted to by email. So thanks SA!
Apropos of nothing that has appeared hitherto, as a fellow devotee of Tawan and its
incumbents, I think you might be interested to glance at the website PowerMen.com.
Two of its most recent muscle models are known to both of us. Hitomi Hiroki
aka Mekhin Aryuwattanamongkol and Dado Santos aka Arthur, though personally
known to me as Kuson (Laseur). The nearest Mekhin has got to Japan is possibly a Japanese Bar in Thanon Thaniya! There is a third model photographed around the same time who looks Thai and could also be from The Tawan Bar, but I don’t recognise either the face or any other part of his anatomy. I have not, as yet, subscribed to the site so cannot personally vouch for the quality of their performances!
Keep up the good work.
With the cap I wasn’t sure if that was Artur – but that ass I’d recognize anywhere! Thanks for the tip Johnjack!
I am an OUT Indie Artist with a new dance single and music video. Is it possible for you to do a blog about it?