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Hump Day Is Bump Day #29
27 Wednesday Aug 2014
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26 Tuesday Aug 2014
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Undoubtedly, I’ve waxed erotically over my bar boy friend and current love of my life, Noom, on these pages before. At least once or twice. It’s difficult not to. The man is a hunk. And whenever Noom pops into my mind, it’s usually vivid pictorial memories of his naked body that accompany those thoughts. So much so that you’d think these posts should be called I Fell In Lust With A Bar Boy. But that wouldn’t make for very interesting stories ‘cuz every gay man who has ever stepped foot inside of a gogo bar in Bangkok has fallen in lust with a bar boy. The smart ones pay his off fee and take him back to their hotel to pursue that lust to its natural conclusion. Because happy endings are what Thailand’s all about.
Lust is pretty much a 24/7 state of being for me when I’m in the kingdom. From the cute waiter at breakfast to the hot hunk at the mall to the novice monk showing nipple at a wat, there is a non-stop constant bombardment of lustful displays of eye candy waiting for me. Even the stoic officer at Immigration causes my mind to start fantasizing over how much fun it would be to strip him out of that uniform. That’s soon followed by the thought that maybe rather than tip him I should throw the bellhop who takes me to my room onto the bed and give him an orgasm instead. Not that that’s an either/or proposition. I’ve done both in the past.
I’m pretty sure Noom knows how many guys I undress with my eyes daily in Thailand. But he doesn’t care. ‘Cuz he knows all he has to do is undress himself and my focus will, again, be entirely on him. Fortunately, Noom is naked almost as often as I am in lust. So that works out well for the both of us. Although I’ve yet to figure out how it is that cuddled naked in bed together after a long session of hot, sweaty sex, I can still be looking at his body with so many lustful thoughts in my head. I think it must be love.
Someone – whom I really wished hadn’t been the one asking – recently questioned if I would still be as attracted to Noom if sex was no longer part of the equation. So there is such a thing as a stupid question. My attraction to Noom isn’t about the sex we have but rather the sex I want to have when I look at him. Even when we are in the middle of having sex. I think what he meant to ask was whether or not Noom and I would still have the same relationship if sex was no longer part of our relationship. That’s a better question. A loaded one considering who it came from, but a better question nonetheless. And one I’ve considered before. Although, perhaps, with less thought as to what that might mean to someone else.
Early on in our relationship I considered the issue of sex/money/relationship thanks to either the angle or devil on my shoulder, depending on who you ask. I think that is a set of issues many farang involved with a bar boy have questioned in the past. It seems to be a disloyal thought when you suspect you are falling in love and hoping the object of your affections is falling in love with you too. Because it is not about love, but rather about motivation. Or appears to be. But as guilty of a thought as that may be, the alternative is to fix your rose-colored glasses firmly to you face and stumble blindly into a future that may well end up with you being one of those disgruntled farang who claims some bar boy done him wrong. And that’s not ever a pretty sight.
Of course when that question came up the first time – back when it was for my own edification and not posed with ulterior motives attached – the answer was an easier one. Because it had no basis in reality. I could question whether I’d still want to be with Noom if the sex was cut off, or whether he would still want to be with me if the money stopped, but that was a debate of fantasy. Neither was going to happen. Because while you may say it’s about money and sex, we both know it’s about taking care of the other person’s needs. Which in this case, as it is in many, is sex and money. At least for now.
The initial attraction was Noom’s body and my wallet. It was lust at first sight. As it should be. And over the years my money and his body have continued to play an important role in our relationship. But our relationship has grown, our friendship has matured. It’s no longer just about money and sex. When my little head stops its reminiscing and my big head takes over the controls once again the warm feelings I get thinking about Noom are about who he is and not what he looks like. And how he makes me feel when I’m with him. So yes, if sex was no longer part of the equation I would still be just as attracted to Noom, just as much in love with him. And I realize that at some point sex will probably no longer be part of our relationship. That’s assuming that even at an advanced age I won’t find the naked body of an 80-year-old to be something that stirs lust within my heart. But that’s only an assumption. So I’ll get back to you in another forty years.
Of course I could have told you that years ago if I’d only asked Noom. Not that I had to. Because he once told me as much. From our first night together, he knew. And a year or so later one night when we were cuddled together naked in bed – not having sex, but with lust working its usual magic on my psyche – he said, “Dis when I happy.” It wasn’t that I wasn’t listening; his words at that time however were filtered through my lust. Only later did I realize it wasn’t about us not having sex, or about being naked together, but rather the affection we shared in simply being together. Noom knew way before I did that ours was an affair of the heart.
Despite what you would assume from those who vent their disillusionment on the message boards, there are a lot of successful relationships between farang and bar boys out there. Genuine relationships. Real relationships. Not the relationships of boyfriends who change faces several months later, but relationships that began years ago and are just as strong today. One of the benefits of writing this blog is that I hear from farang in those relationships. Some of whom have moved beyond the sexual to pure friendship. You’d think since that’s where it started, when sex is no longer in the picture, those relationships would be over. Not true. Maybe that’s the difference between lust and love.
I’ve heard from several farang who were in a relationship with a Thai for years, enjoying his company as much as they enjoyed having sex with him. Years later, for one reason or another, the boy moves on in his life, often returning to his village, often finding a wife and starting a family. You’d think that would be the end of that relationship. But instead the farang remains an important part of that guy’s life. He becomes part of that guy’s family. Sex is no longer part of the picture, but the affection and love the two shared still is. It would be easy to write those relationships off as examples of sad farang who have so little in their lives that they are willing to settle for a pseudo-relationship with a guy who won’t even have sex with them any longer. But if that’s your take, a quick peek in the mirror will show you who the sad farang really is.
Orgasms are cheap and easy to come by. What those farang have is the brass ring. It’s not about lust. It’s about love. And hearing from those farang share their pride in the achievements of the men who were once their sexual partners, provides a small inkling of the difference between the two. There are those too who continue to have a relationship with a Thai guy that includes sex, probably even more of them. And I’m not trying to discount those relationships. That’s the cake, with the icing, and a cherry on top. But when you remove what everyone assumes is the main attraction, at least for the farang, and still have a warm, loving relationship . . . how can you then claim that’s not a real, genuine relationship? How can you then assume that sex and sex alone is what makes a relationship between a farang and a Thai or between any two people – tick? You need to quit thinking with your dick.
Noom and my relationship still includes sex, largely due I’m sure to the high degree of lust I still feel for him. That may, or may not, continue for years to come depending on how what we share together plays out. And while I’m thankful for it, the act of sex in and of itself, is no longer the driving force – for me – behind what we share. It is part of our relationship, yet separate from it too. If that makes sense. That’s not something new. That’s not a paradigm I’ve grown into. I think that has been a standard of our relationship for years because of what he does for a living. Many have marveled at my caviler attitude towards his life as a bar boy, that I’m not jealous over the time he spends with customers and that, if anything, I encourage visitors to Bangkok to off him. I probably would be jealous, I probably would be concerned, if any of that had anything to do with our relationship. But it doesn’t. It’s just sex. Or bidness, in his mind. Which has absolutely zero impact on what the two of us share. Other than that occasionally he picks up some new trick. And I thank you for that.
But back to the original poorly posed question. I’ll always be attracted to Noom because of who he is, not because of the orgasms I’ve enjoyed with him. Would our relationship change if those orgasms were no longer part of our time together? Sure it would. There would be a lot less post-coital showering involved. Would our not having sex in some way lessen our relationship, or even bring it to an end? You’re thinking with your dick again. Focusing on the sexual part of our relationship – while understandable – provides the wrong picture; sex should not be your concern. Because sex hasn’t been the basis of what we share for years. And whether or not we continue having sex will have no impact on that relationship. Or on its future. It’s not what is important. It’s not what makes our relationship what it is. Noom is and always will be part of my life. Because I didn’t just fall in lust with a bar boy. I fell in love with Noom.
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26 Tuesday Aug 2014
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25 Monday Aug 2014
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inThailand’s soon to be ex-junta leader/soon to be Prime Minister General Prayuth Chan-Ocha announced last Friday that the previously announced crackdown on back-to-back visa running farang will also be a soon to be ex-policy because disallowing those folks re-entry to the country is hurting education and tourism within the kingdom. Evidently, according to Almost PM Prayuth the crackdown on in/out visa scammers is putting a hefty dent in the number of foreign language teachers and tour guides. Even though the old new policy was only a matter of a few weeks old. And even though those on tourist visas are not allowed to teach. And even though non-Thais are not allowed to work as tour guides. Which would make little sense if Almost PM Prayuth was the almost leader/military coup honcho of pretty much any other nation on the planet. But this, thank the gods, is Thailand. Where what you don’t say matters more than what you do.
For those who don’t think learning choice words and phrases of the local lingo – like that the Thai word for toilet is hong nam – is the route to better understanding the world of Thailand, reading between the lines immediately tells you what Almost PM Prayuth really meant. First, his announcement was about face. And second it was about tourism and how Thailand is viewed by the rest of the world. Which currently is as a country-wide brothel. And that’s a rep Almost PM Prayuth is tired of. Because he doesn’t want to be referred to as Mamasan Prayuth when meeting other leaders on the world stage. But let’s talk about that face thingy first.
The initial crackdown that sent many illegal sexpats’ balls racing for safe harbor was announced by soon to be ex-national commander of Thai Immigration, Lt. Gen. Pharnu Kerdlarpphon two months ago as part of the junta’s overall crackdown on everything that wasn’t making Thailand a happy place. As devastating as that bit of news was to those who have no legal right to be living in Thailand, most assumed it was just another thrust in the multi-prong attack against general villainy that included a crackdown on illegal immigrants flowing over the border from Burma (which really was about protecting them in the workplace) and a crackdown on the notorious Taxi Mafia (which was really about sending a bitch slap to permanent ex-Prime Minister Thaksin Shinawatra and his band of merry red shirt wearing men). Thai immigration officials, never big fans of anyone who is not Thai, rushed to implement the new – and now soon to be ex – interpretation of the law.
Unfortunately for soon to be ex-national commander of Thai Immigration, Lt. Gen. Pharnu Kerdlarpphon’s career, he failed to notice that his announcement was causing a bit of rain to fall on soon to be Almost Prime Minister Prayuth’s parade All of the junta’s crackdowns making the news were supposed to be coming from the good general. So that everyone would know that by junta we meant General Prayuth. Oooops. Soon to be ex-national commander of Thai Immigration Lt. Gen. Pharnu Kerdlarpphon’s bad. And now he is ex-national commander of Thai Immigration Lt. Gen. Pharnu Kerdlarpphon. And Almost PM Prayuth now has to clean up his mess.
So, during his weekly TV briefing to the nation, the general said he had ordered the Immigration Police to be “more flexible” in its application of the law. Which is Thai for ‘go back to what you were doing for the last twenty years’. And since it would look un-leader like to explain the new policy to not enforce the law as was done under the old policy is all due to an uppity Lt. Gen. who didn’t know his place, Almost Prime Minister Prayuth resolved the issue by saying, “This is an ongoing problem that needs to be resolved, as it can lead to a shortage of English teachers and guides.”
Which may appear to look like Almost Prime Minister Prayuth doesn’t even know what the laws of his own country are. Until you remember this is Thailand and laws are generally considered to be something best ignored. And if ignoring those laws becomes too much of a hassle, you can just enact a new constitution anyway. But taken in context of the numerous steps Almost Prime Minister Prayuth has taken over the last few months to make his country a happy place and clean-up its reputation around the world, the good general’s announcement last weeks speaks to a much broader soon to be official but we can’t actually make it official policy, directed toward the country’s tourism industry. And that policy should warm the cockles (minus a few letters) of Pattaya’s sexpat population’s hearts.
While Thailand battles with its most recent attempt at being a democracy (wink, wink), it’s obvious Almost Prime Minister Prayuth, as he picks which battles are to be fought, takes his cues from the long hours he spends on Facebook. Social media has become the driving force behind the good general’s efforts to happy-atize his country. When the on-line world was all atwitter over Thailand’s win as one of the world’s worst violators of human trafficking thanks to its successful seafood industry, Almost Prime Minister Prayuth stepped right up to the seafood dinner plate and announced a crackdown on the dastardly illegal immigrants who were feeding themselves into the country’s slavery trade. When Kim Kardashian tweeted that she’d like to take a Thai baby home as a souvenir of her trip to the kingdom, Almost Prime Minister Prayuth’s junta immediately responded with a crackdown on the country’s previously profitable surrogacy industry by arresting nine newborn infants who’d been conspiring to sell themselves to foreign parents in Australia and Germany.
As soon as Almost Prime Minister Prayuth notices problems within his country on-line, he immediately responds. For example, in reaction to the horror of Facebook fans over the illegal ivory trade that has always been business as usual in the kingdom, the good general recently announced a crackdown on elephant poaching too. (Although I don’t remember just what steps were announced to solve that problem. But I’m sure they included a death sentence for any elephants caught involving themselves in the trade.)
As with these on-line hot button issues, the good general’s general state of unhappiness with Thailand’s rep for being the world’s brothel has also resulted in a crackdown on Bangkok’s red light districts. No longer, for the overpriced cost of a drink, can you see naked locals copulating on stage. Now you have to pony up 500 baht and take one (or more) of them back to your hotel to experience that pleasure. Not that the country’s lax enforcement of its prostitution laws are to blame. Of course. That fault lies with its tourists; touri gone wild is a major problem in Thailand. And there’s the rub. (Which, btw, in Bangkok will run you about 2,000 baht for a happy ending.)
So it is not mere coincidence that the good general and soon to be prime minister mentioned what were recently considered to be ‘bad’ tourists in his radio address last week just days after touri gone wild made the social media news in Barcelona. Evidently, the residents of that Spanish town are fed up with tourists behaving badly. The straw that broke the camel’s back was three nude Italian tourists who frolicked around Spain’s La Barceloneta neighborhood for three hours last Friday, which resulted in 100 Barcelona residents taking to the streets demanding local officials do more to combat their city’s drunken tourism problem. “We’re tired of low-cost, drunken tourism,” said La Barceloneta neighborhood association leader, Oriol Casabella. “It’s killing our neighborhood and dissuading other types of tourists. It’s Magaluf all over again.”
(Note: Magaluf is a major holiday resort and a notorious holiday spot on the Spanish island of Majorca, primarily catering to the British, Russian, Irish, and Scandinavian package holiday market, with a well-deserved reputation for being naughty, naked, and downright dirty. Uh, the town, not the touri. Well, okay, both.)
(Note to self: You need to make a trip to Magaluf.)
The naked tourists were the latest incident in an ongoing conversation Barcelona has been having in recent years about the number and the type of tourists visiting the city. The number of tourists visiting has jumped drastically in recent year to more than 7.4 million annually. As residents attempt to go about their lives in a city where tourists often far outnumber the 1.6 million residents, the number of complaints about noise, nudity, public drunkenness, and littering has rocketed. Which may sound like Pattaya to you. Well, it did to Almost Prime Minister Prayuth too.
And much like with now ex-national commander of Thai Immigration Lt. Gen. Pharnu Kerdlarpphon, Almost Prime Minister Prayuth doesn’t like other countries honing in on what is Thailand’s rightful domain. So with a masterful one-two punch the good general addressed both issues last Friday by declaring the previously announced crackdown on in/out visa runs null and void, and declaring Thailand’s borders open season for the type of touri no other country wants. It’s not the illegal ESL teachers or illegal tour guides the good general wants to protect, but the drunk-ass sex tourists who flock to Pattaya, many of whom eventually decide to call the kingdom’s version of Sin City home. and since no one in Thailand actually considers Pattaya to be part of the country, by funneling the drunks and sex tourists there the good general can still have his cake and eat it too.
What Almost Prime Minister Prayuth meant by “This is an ongoing problem that needs to be resolved, as it can lead to a shortage of English teachers and guides,” is “We built Pattaya for the drunk sex tourists of the world and if we don’t allow them free access across our borders it will lead to a shortage of those ideals Thais hold most dearly: baht, baht, and more baht.” Which was all that the crackdown on in/out visa runs was going to accomplish anyway. Now with Almost Prime Minister Prayuth’s un-tightening of the country’s recently tightened immigration policies, those who choose to live out their golden years as illegal immigrants immersed in a constant state of drunken haze and commercial sex can once again breathe freely. And if that doesn’t make Pattaya’s bar owners, visa run service operators, flesh peddlers, and prostitutes happy, I, and the good general, don’t know what will.
So if you were concerned that the next time you stepped foot out of the country it would be your last time, rest easy. The crack down on in-out visa scammers is now officially an ex-crackdown in illegal immigration. And if an immigration official starts giving you a hard time about the multiple entry stamps cluttering up the pages of your passport, just tell him you are headed for Pattaya. Then all will be fine. Because unlike clueless farang, Thais know what Almost Prime Minister Prayuth meant when he promised to bring happiness back to Thai people.
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25 Monday Aug 2014
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23 Saturday Aug 2014
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This week’s NSFW Tumblr link, Asian Peeker, is another of those the blogger was too busy posting photos of hot naked Asian guys to bother with changing his Tumblr’s name from Untitled. Which I only point out ‘cuz you’ll be too busy looking at all the photos of hot naked Asian guys to bother noticing it yourself.
I never knew that the SGT poster Netrix was a Dane.
I assume it’s a fake, albeit a good one, because Seth Rogen said Zac Efron has a beautiful cock and in this naked photo Zac’s looks pretty average.
And speaking of hot penis that has appeared in Disney films, someone had way too much time on their hands and re-imagined the best parts of male characters from Disney’s animated feature films (including dick length, girth, tone, veins, pube sitch, etc.) that they felt reflected their personalities.
The water quality at the beaches of Pattaya was already bad enough without scientists encouraging this kind of behavior!
It’s too bad this blogger didn’t last ‘cuz Hunks And Guys Of Facebook was a who’s who of who you should be friending.
Dunno how they ever managed to cull the choices down, but here are the Top 3 Worst Gay Porn Acting Scenes Ever!
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22 Friday Aug 2014
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21 Thursday Aug 2014
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Xavier Hu is a personal fitness instructor whose biggest claim to fame was being a Manhunt International Singapore finalist a few years ago – the 2010 4th Runner-Up to be precise, although he did win the coveted Best Style Male Model trophy. I’m not sure why male beauty pageants are so big in Singapore and the Philippines, but I’m glad they are.
The 25-year-old as close to a twink as I wanna get first hit the scene as an adorable 18-year-old posing for Sportsmenasia’s 2007 calendar. After a short stint serving in Singapore’s military-style National Service, which helped him beef up a bit, he participated in Cleo Magazine’s Most Eligible Bachelors pageant and Manhunt Singapore in 2010.
Back when every gay boy in Singapore wanted to do him, the just over 5 1/2′ tall cutey claimed to be straight and even had a girlfriend. Now that he’s older, no longer an A-list hottie, and is making his living helping other guys get toned, he lists his sexuality as ‘curious’.
You have to assume some of that curiosity was satisfied ‘cuz when asked about his favorite pastime during an interview, in a typical ‘curious’ guy non-gender specific response he said, “I’d rather hook up with an ex than a hot friend ‘cos while the hottie may be refreshing, an ex knows you better, and going with someone you’re familiar with would be a safer choice.”
More recent photos of Xavier show he’s done a nice job adding muscle to his physique, but you won’t see any of those here. Circa 2007 he was still a bit scrawny for my tastes, but around 2009 he still hit the cute mark while showing off a more mature build. Since then his youthful appeal has faded fast. That or I’m actually beginning to appreciate the twink look.
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